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Understanding a Passive Husband during Conflict

Sometimes, being a passive husband, I sit back and think about just how hard it must be for my wife to understand me.  I have so many quirky things about my personality and the way I communicate that in all reality probably do not make sense.  For many things, I react very much under the foreign language that could be called the “man code” system of honor and respect.  If that isn’t confusing enough, throw in my passive tendencies and you get a hyper version of honor and respect where most of the battles take place in my head...

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Serving Up Unconditional Respect

Back when I first started this blog I wrote a post on the topic of unconditional respect.  That post came about as I was reading Shaunti Feldhahn’s book, For Women Only.  I have been going through the book Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs and thought it would be a good time to return to the concept of unconditional respect. Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word, by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure...

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The Ides of Marriage: Ideals, Idle Time, and Idols

You are probably familiar with the Ides of March.  In the Roman calendar they split up each month into three sections.  Each month had the Kalends (1st of the month), Nones (5th to 7th day of the month), and the Ides (13th to 15th day of the month corresponding to the full moon).  So, each day in a month was defined in relation to one of these three days.  So, after Kalends in March, the next day would be something like VI Nones, V Nones, IV Nones until you get to Nones.  Then you would have a similar countdown...

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Why Do We Argue?

A wife asks a simple question.  Maybe something like, “Could you finish that work on the deck soon?” Her husband responds, “I will see if I can get to it,…maybe this weekend.” Things probably would have been fine at this point, but then the wife feels the need to respond back with something like, “You know, it would make me much happier if you could just finish your projects when you start them.  You always leave your tools out everywhere and that is embarrassing.” Her husband feels a bit taken aback but manages to reply back, “I will try...

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Why does it seem like I am so good at respecting my wife but lousy at loving her?

I have tried to portray that I have a generally passive personality.  I am very patient.  I don’t talk anymore than I have to.  I don’t really like to get into situations where there is much conflict or “noise.”  I get energized by working independently and work to accomplish my goals in a very logical fashion. Well, my wife is kind of…..not any of that. There are strengths to each of our personalities that work great for our marriage and for each other.  There are also weaknesses.  A lot of times something I am weak at she is awesome...

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