And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living being.

Genesis 2:7

After reading that, now would be a good time to look at your wife and tell her, “Wow! You’re such a lovely dirt bag.” Then again, that probably would not be a good idea. Maybe you should turn to your wife and say, “Hi, honey. I am such a dirt bag.” We aren’t that used to humbling ourselves and declaring that our life is solely a gift from God. We don’t usually want to stop and think of ourselves as God-breathed dirt. Knowing this information, it is pretty easy to make the connection that God has a dirty job.

In our marriages we need to remind ourselves that each day we have together is a gift from God. If each day we are a blessing to each other, we might have a revival of humility in our marriage that might destroy our pride and selfishness. When we are genuinely humble it is difficult to be angry, frustrated, or upset with our spouse.

And whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.

Matthew 23:12

We often hear the phrase, “From dust you came, and to dust you shall return.” If we keep reminding ourselves of this fact, we will have a much easier time dying to ourselves and living for God. Do we appreciate having a spouse who is led by the Holy Spirit? When we submit ourselves to God’s Spirit daily, we naturally create an attraction to our spouse.

Understanding that men are from dirt gives us the ability to look at that fact as a sign of natural humility. So, our thinking says that dirt really isn’t worth a whole lot. When we take that same dirt and use it for a specific purpose it starts to become valuable. The following example I have seen used many times in different places, but I will take a spin on it. If you take the bucket of water that you used to clean up the brush after painting the blue bathroom and add the water that your wife used to clean up the brush after painting the pink bathroom what will you get? I know, following the theme you would be correct by saying “dirty” water. OK, if you stir it up and make it one solid color you will get something that would not be either blue or pink, but purple – a symbol of royalty that could symbolize God. For an effective marriage, it takes humility to work. We must be willing to change to be made in to a greater purpose.

It is a humbling collection of differences that brought you and your wife together. She thinks different than you. She walks different than you. She acts different than you. When you were dating, it was those differences that attracted you to each other. God created us differently and we could enjoy life better if we could celebrate those differences. This is where the dirt comes in again. Dirt is also an irritant. Over time we stop embracing the differences and we get a little dirty. Differences that we used to enjoy about our wives we start to ignore. What we once appreciated is now annoying. We begin to let our own pride and selfishness direct us to believe that our spouses should be more like us and not be themselves.

So, how can we clean up this dirty situation? We have to rely on God, who has the ultimate dirty job. We should remind ourselves daily that God has given us each day to appreciate our differences, to love each other, and to learn about how wonderfully made we are. If we can be truly humble ourselves before God, we will soon rediscover the joy that we had before.