For some time now, I have wanted to do a series of posts on God’s design for sexuality and marriage. Up front I want to state that most of this material will be coming from a Secret Church on Family, Marriage, Sex, and the Gospel by David Platt from 2011. I highly recommend that if you want to know more about this topic that you visit www.radical.net where video streams and other materials are available for download. Additionally, I have found most of David Platt’s work to be extremely grounded on the Word and without a lot of fluff.

“The tendency today is to stress the equality of men and women by minimizing the unique significance of our maleness or femaleness. But this depreciation of male and female personhood is a great loss. It is taking a tremendous toll on generations of young men and women who do not know what it means to be a man or a woman. Confusion over the meaning of sexual personhood today is epidemic. The consequence of this confusion is not a free and happy harmony among gender-free persons relating on the basis of abstract competencies. The consequence rather is more divorce, more homosexuality, more sexual abuse, more promiscuity, more social awkwardness, and more emotional distress and suicide that come with the loss of God-given identity.”

-John Piper

Sexuality is extremely important in that it affects our knowledge of God, the gospel, the Bible, and the church. It also is fundamental in how we show love to our wives, raise our children, and conduct ourselves as individuals.

Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth. So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” And God said, “Behold, I have given you every plant yielding seed that is on the face of all the earth, and every tree with seed in its fruit. You shall have them for food. And to every beast of the earth and to every bird of the heavens and to everything that creeps on the earth, everything that has the breath of life, I have given every green plant for food.” And it was so. And God saw everything that he had made, and behold, it was very good. And there was evening and there was morning, the sixth day. –Genesis 1:26-31

The foundation we would like to take from this verse is this: God created men and women with equal dignity. This passage tells us that God created both man and woman in His image. Both man and woman have an equal value and equal importance to God. David Platt describes what the meaning of equal dignity of men and women as, “in any culture, in any relationship where man is thought to be better than woman, or woman is thought to be better than man, in any culture, any relationship where men or women are treated as inferior, as objects to be used or abused, then we are undercutting the very design of God. For all of eternity, no sex, man or woman, will be greater than the other. No person should feel superior or inferior because they are a man or a woman.”

We Are All Made In the Image of God

The passage in Genesis tells us that God created us in His own image. That means that no matter how different we are as men and women we still are made in the image of God. Psalm 94:9 states, “He who planted the ear, does he not hear? He who formed the eye, does he not see?” David Platt states that, “our physical qualities resemble His personal qualities. We resemble God.”

We Are God’s Representatives

The passage in Genesis also tells us to “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” Basically, saying, I made you in my own image so go and increase my image throughout my creation.

We Are Built To Relate To God

When I look at your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, what is man that you are mindful of him, and the son of man that you care for him? Yet you have made him a little lower than the heavenly beings and crowned him with glory and honor. You have given him dominion over the works of your hands; you have put all things under his feet, all sheep and oxen, and also the beasts of the field, the birds of the heavens, and the fish of the sea, whatever passes along the paths of the seas. –Psalms 8:3-8

God made us with a unique capacity to interact with him that is distinctly different than other things that he created. David Platt says that, “we relate to God in a way that cats and dogs, and seas and mountains, even angels do not, cannot, and don’t have the capacity to relate to God.” Because we were built to relate to God we were also built with a personal responsibility to God. There will come a time when we will all be judged by God and how we followed His commands and His Word.

In Summary, our first foundation of sexuality is that God created men and women with equal dignity. We should treat each other with respect, honor, and dignity whether we are male or female. Our next foundation will be that men and women were created with different roles.