The Bible tells us as husbands that we are to love our wives like Christ loved the Church. It is pretty clear that if we can look at some of the habits that Jesus had we can gain a better understanding as to how we should prepare ourselves to be husbands. Over the next good while I am going to explore some of these habits and I have decided to call them the Happy Husband Habits. Today, we will start with the habit of seclusion.
In the early morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house, and went away to a secluded place, and was praying there. Mark 1:35
Seclusion is the act of withdrawing, momentarily or for an extended period of time, from everyday noise and demands, to spend some time with God. We all need times of seclusion as husbands and fathers to get a little recharge emotionally and spiritually. It would be great if we had some time that we allocated to this every day, but finding a place of seclusion today has become more and more difficult.
Jesus was a leader, teacher, healer, and savior. I know it seems like as a husband and father we are constantly being asked for our time by our wives, our kids, our work, and our friends. Everybody wants there time with you and probably more than you can really give. My guess is that Jesus was bombarded with questions and demands everywhere that he went, too. The demand for so much of our time drains us, emotionally and spiritually. Jesus also needed to be renewed and restored. Jesus often withdrew from the people, pressures, and the daily noises of life.
Jesus often would seclude himself from people, pressures, and the daily grind. Jesus was not a loner but felt the need to be alone to regroup. How often as a husband have you needed to be able to step out of the light for a little while in order to get a grip on decisions for your family? If Jesus needed seclusion, it only makes sense that we probably need it that much more. Are there decisions that you have made where you can look back and see that your decision was made clear when you took some time to be alone?
Where would Jesus go into seclusion? He often preferred two places: the water and the mountains. That doesn’t sound very different from a husbands favorite places to recharge either. Usually, a husband might like to go to fish on the water, go up high into a tree stand, go work in his garage, do some yard work, or watch some TV. In how many of these places have you experienced some quiet time with God? Did you think about an issue you were dealing with that became clear to you in one of these places? I know for me I can think of times when I came to solutions to problems while I was trying to sleep. I had put off trying to work on the problem during the day or didn’t find a time to pull away during the day, but once I tried to go to sleep with the problem I had to work through it before I was going to get any rest.
Is there that you try to have during your day that you try to go into seclusion? If you are an early riser it might be before work that you find some time to spend alone with God. I tend to stay in the office a lot at lunch time and I try to find a few minutes during this time to regroup and refocus. You may have to wait until the kids are in bed at night to find some time alone.
Next time, we are going to look at some of the reasons that Jesus went into seclusion and see how they can relate to our needs to have some time away with God. Are you making some time to help you stay at your best? Do you allow yourself time to gain a proper perspective on life?